Sex Slaves, Swingers and Totally Addicted to Blog....

I have a problem and it's time that I share it.

I've been occassionally checking the http://blogs.news.com.au site and reading the "ask bossy" blogs. The short is that people write in with problems, they get posted up and the lady who runs the site gives suggestions and comments. Then the real fun begins. It's open slather and every joe smoe gets to give comments, abuse and generally vent their spleen.

It amazes me the problems people have and is a real insight into the human condition (seriously). As are the responses of the masses.

The latest one has a lady writing in about her boy friend of 4.5 yrs whose started getting a little freaky and controlling when it comes to sex (sorry I probly shouldn't be judgemental and use "freaky"). He's indicated that he's upfor her having sex with his friends and other girls while he watches.

Now you'd think this'd surprise me but I've been following the site for a month or more now so I'm a bit desensitised to the freakiness that seems to occur out there in the "real world". What surprised me more was some of the comments by the sites writer who is apparently a psychologist or something maybe. She spoke to an "expert" about rough sex and fantasy stuff.

"You ask a lot of interesting questions about this issue and I have to admit I’m far from an expert when it comes to slavery or rough sex. So I asked a real expert, practicing dominatrix and Mistress Amanda Dwyer, who runs Sydney’s Salon Kitty’s, and has pretty much seen it all. Here’s what she says about your situation: “Fantasies such as one partner ‘owning and controlling’ the other are quite common for both men and women and are of themselves no reason to start worrying about whether there are severe problems within the relationship. Having sex in public places, roughing up, humiliation, abduction, interrogation, rape and swinging are all variations of exploring ownership and control of which sex slavery is very much part of the theme. In my experience I’ve found both sexes are interested in watching their partners having sex with another (swinging). I’ve observed men are far more interested in their partners being involved with another male or female, while women seem happier to voyeur their partner with another woman rather than another male."

I've bolded the bits that surprised me. I'd personally be worried if my partner had fantasies about owning or controlling me. Might not be a problem with the relationship, but that's surely a problem of theirs they need to see someone about.

And "In my experience I’ve found both sexes are interested in watching their partners having sex with another " What the!?!! Is it just me, but I don't think I'd be into sharing in that way.

Anyways, it's very educational reading some of this stuff, both in terms of what some people get up to and have to face in their lives, as well as aspects of your own life it questions and/or strengthens.

Still judge not lest ye be judged :)

(that goes for freaky swingers as well as me reading these sort of blogs. ;)